Posted September 15, 2018 07:08:24 When you’re forced to have a marriage ceremony, the first thing you want is to be completely honest with yourself, and say to yourself, “I’m not sure I want this,” says Ashley Jones, a former model and activist.
But that is not the reality for many women.
Jones says she was forced to undergo a marriage in her 30s by her father when he was forced into an arranged marriage with a man he’d met online.
It wasn’t until he died that she began researching the issue, and was finally able to find a marriage lawyer who was able to legally marry her father.
After months of legal wrangling, she was able, and she now works as a wedding planner for other couples.
“I would have had to be an adult, not just have a couple of years of my life saved up, before I would have felt comfortable having a family,” Jones says.
When you’re told you have to get married, you’re not really told that you have an obligation to have it.
That’s when it becomes really important for you to say, “OK, this is the right thing for me.”
Jones says that in her experience, the pressure to marry a partner is “pretty high”.
She says many couples feel like they can’t live without their partner, and they worry that if they don’t marry they will lose all their benefits.
And when you do, the consequences are often devastating, Jones says, including loss of job, education, savings and children.
The number of people forced to get a marriage certificate has increased over the last few years.
In 2015, the Federal Government issued marriage certificates to 3.5 million people, and in 2019 the number rose to 6.8 million.
However, the Department of Human Services says that only 1 in 5 of those applications received a marriage licence.
A further 1 in 3 people who apply for a marriage document are rejected.
In some states, such as New South Wales and Western Australia, people are forced by law to get the document if they can prove they have a disability or illness that prevents them from working.
Other states do not allow people to get marriage certificates if they cannot work.
For those who are not able to work, or do not want to, marriage can be a painful experience.
Many people are not allowed to travel or live apart from their partner during the marriage, and the pressure on them is high.
Marilyn Molloy, a lawyer and former head of the Legal Aid Centre in Victoria, says people can have a “very difficult time trying to get someone to agree to a marriage because of the stigma of the ceremony and the stigma that it puts on them.”
“So the pressure is quite heavy and there is a lot of work being done by lawyers, and other people are coming up with ways of dealing with the issue,” she says.
“It is a complex process, and a lot more needs to be done to try and prevent it from happening.”
Jones, however, says the pressure that couples have to put on themselves to get that marriage is “really strong”.
“People say to me, ‘Why are you doing this?
You’re doing it for your family’,” she says, referring to the fact she has had to get involved in the legal battle to have her father’s legal name removed from her marriage certificate.
I don’t know if it would have been better for me, if I had been able to go through with it.
But it was the only way I could have been able survive.
You might have to live with the consequences of a marriage for a while.
But you can choose to move on.
And when you choose to, you can still have children.
I think a lot are going to have children and have them happy,” Jones adds.
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